Tag: men

midlife crisis and transition. Hamster Wheel. Mind and Love.

Midlife: A New Mode of Being

I was feeling utterly aimless and frustrated. I didn’t want to replace old goals with new ones; it made me feel like a hamster on the wheel. Yet it was familiar; a mode of existence strongly imprinted in my mind; set goals and strive to achieve them. I didn’t know how else to live, but I was simultaneously annoyed by the seemingly inherent dissatisfaction that accompanied this mode of being.

Continue reading
Crying Masculinity, Mental Health. Mind and Love

Learning to Cry (Part 1)

Masculinity exists on a sliding scale. It’s not definite, it constantly fluctuates from moment to moment. If one of those moments afforded me to tip the scales toward masculinity, establishing my non-crying credentials would definitely have done the trick. Keep in mind, I was never a macho man and never felt the need to amplify those bona fides. However, everyone is different; a comfortable sense of self established by varying degrees of masculine validation.

Continue reading